Sex with oral herpes / HSV 1 / Cold sores

The problem with oral sex is that if you want it to be good, it really jams up the brain.

Let's think about it.  If you are doing it well, you have to rub, suck, caress, finger..... all at the same time.  It is the same for men and women.  Same activities, same pace, just slightly different body parts.

Giving good oral sex is similar to patting your head and rubbing your belly at the same time.  Hard to do if you are to do all of them at the same time.  This is why a lot of the time a lover/partner will start to only focus on one area and activity.  I know that I am guilty of it.  I don't know how many times I have rubbed when I should have sucked or have stopped rubbing to suck.

This got me thinking.

Why don't more men and women use sex toys with their lovers/partners, especially when sex is in the top ten most important things in a healthy LTR?

If you know that your lover/partner likes to be stimulated in various ways at the same time and so do you, why not use toys?

It will give you less cramps in the hands, arms and tongue.  It will do one area and you do another area.  It makes sense to me.  And yet I have generally come up with resistance when it comes to using toys when a lover/partner is in the same room.

I am usually saying, "Baby, it is okay if you don't want me to use it on you, but can you use it on me when you are doing oral?  Sure I use it when I do doggie, but can you just put it right there for me on this speed?"

I know that I am not alone in these conversations.  We just don't like to admit that we have them.

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